As a part of my premarital counseling program, one of the things we talk about is each partner’s expectations for marriage. Most times these expectations stem from what each person saw in their home growing up. I’m a big believer in “monkey see, monkey do”. What your children see in your marriage is what they consider normal. Chances are, this is what they will emulate in their marriage. After all, it’s normal.
Think about the type of marriage you want your daughter/son to have. Take a moment and really think about it. Visualize your children as married adults. What does their marriage look like? How happy are they? Do they enjoy their spouses company? Do they go on vacation together? How do they nurture their relationship daily? Do they laugh together? Do they fight fair? Are they the envy of all other couples in the neighborhood? (Notice no mention of a house, car or any other stuff)
If you love your children as much as I assume, the image you created is an example of an amazing marriage. It’s a marriage full of love, joy, cooperation, patience, kindness, passion and fidelity. The type of relationship you imagine for your children is the type of marriage you should have right now. Are you teaching by example?
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