Staying Up-To-Date on Your Mate

It's easy to stay up-to-date on the latest trends in fashion, music, politics and business. You can read it in any magazine, see it on TV or online. There's a reason our favorite Twitter list is titled Trending Topics. And every time I turn on my laptop, it checks for updates. Things change. People change. Your spouse has changed; and so have you. Especially if you've been together for over 10 years and have added children to the equation.

While the essence of your spouse is the same (my personal opinion), the things that stress him out, relieves said stress, gets her "in the mood", or idea of a good time may have changed. If you met when you were 25 and are now approaching 40, you should know what the updates are. It's been 15 years. Think about it. A good time back in 1995 might have been bar-hopping with 20 of your closest friends. Today it might be a small dinner party with good wine and maybe 6 other folks. Besides, there's nothing cute about bar-hopping at 40.

Have you checked for updates recently? Do you know if there's a new favorite flower, music preference, leisure activity or position? Do you know the reason behind the change in mood or weight. Did you notice the new (or renewed) interest in religious practice?

Surely something has changed. Be genuinely curious. There's always something new to learn. You may even discover new ways to support your spouse and enhance your relationship. Isn't that what Love, Honor and Cherish is all about?

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